Self-Care Practices for an Enneagram 3

With plenty of people feeling anxious, discouraged, and uninspired nowadays, we thought we’d explore self-care practices for an Enneagram 3.  It’s important for us to see, know, and celebrate each Enneagram type, and sometimes that means taking a time-out for a realignment.  We’ve done our homework, studied, and explored self-care practices for an Enneagram 3, and we are hopeful in sharing it with you today. Let’s get started.

Self Care Quote on Becoming

It is easy to get lulled into believing that self-care is simply “treating yourself,” but the truth is self-care requires your participation (which is why we call it a “practice”). Self-care is more than bubble baths, wine nights, exercise, or retail therapy.  While we love all of those things and have even curated some fun products and ideas that lend to those, but we believe that self-care is less about doing and more about BECOMING.  

As we researched self-care practices for each Enneagram type, it turns out that each needs their own version of self-care to discover freedom and find wholeness. 


It’s no secret the Enneagram type 3 values recognition, accolades and status.  In fact, they are oftentimes called the achievers as they seek worth from what they can accomplish.  This gives us insight into how Enneagram type 3’s manage the world around them.  Enneagram type 3’s  hold on to what they desire (admiration) as a way of fortifying the illusions of their ego constructs.  It is for this reason, the Sacred Enneagram describes the best way to self-care for an Enneagram 3 is to ENGAGE in SOLITUDE.  

Enneagram 3 Engaging in Solitude

What does it mean to “engage?” For an Enneagram type 3, it means to intentionally show up, and resist their natural tendency to compartmentalize and ignore . Jim Baker reminds us that it’s in solitude that we become free from patterns that inhibit us from experiencing God.  For an Enneagram type 3, this will be an opportunity to silence your inner drive that would have you earn your place and worth.  As you ENGAGE in SOLITUDE as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 3, we’ve included a few products or gift ideas to encourage this spiritual discipline. These products in no way represent self-care; instead, they are merely prompts to encourage the practice unique to your type.

Facial Cleansing Brush

Facial Cleansing Brush

You may be very aware of how you show up in the world, but you’re also great at ignoring yourself. As you intentionally Engage in Solitude why not begin with taking care of your physical self first?   

Personalized Spa Gift Set

Personalized Spa Gift Set

Again, a great segue into taking care of the inside is starting with the outside. Grab a spa gift set to engage your heart in the solitude it needs.

Box of Emotions

Box of Emotions

If you are an Enneagram 3, you’ve probably spent a lot of time reading other people’s emotions and reactions, and very little time paying attention to your own. In fact, do you know how you are feeling right now? This helpful box of cards will give you the right words, and it won’t judge you for them. 

Enneagram 3
Enough Candle

Send a message Enneagram 3’s long to hear–that they are enough long before they accomplish anything.  Remind them of this with each use. This candle, made by our friends at Continued Good, is a perfect and thoughtful handmade gift.

Trademark Body Oil

Being intentional to slow down can be challenging for an Enneagram type 3 who finds worth in busy-ness.  Grab a dry body oil that will force you to retreat into solitude while also caring for your skin. Don’t just make it a beauty routine–add some nourishing reflections while your nourish what others see.

How do you ENGAGE in SOLITUDE as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 3?  We’d love to hear and share your ideas on what works for you. Tell us in the comments below.   

Author: Bone+Marrow