Self-Care Practices for an Enneagram 4

With plenty of people feeling anxious, discouraged, and uninspired nowadays, we thought we’d explore self-care practices for an Enneagram 4.  It’s important for us to see, know, and celebrate each Enneagram type, and sometimes that means taking a time-out for a realignment.  We’ve done our homework, studied, and explored self-care practices for an Enneagram 4, and we are hopeful in sharing it with you today. Let’s get started.

Self Care Quote on Becoming

It is easy to get lulled into believing that self-care is simply “treating yourself,” but the truth is self-care requires your participation (which is why we call it a “practice”). Self-care is more than bubble baths, wine nights, exercise, or retail therapy.  While we love all of those things and have even curated some fun products and ideas that lend to those, but we believe that self-care is less about doing and more about BECOMING.  

As we researched self-care practices for each Enneagram type, it turns out that each needs their own version of self-care to discover freedom and find wholeness. 


It’s no secret the Enneagram type 4 values self-expression.  In fact, they are oftentimes called the individualists as they seek to be appreciated for what makes them unique.  This gives us insight into how Enneagram type 4’s manage the world around them.  For an Enneagram type 4, they deeply wanted to connect with the world, but can oftentimes feel unusual or misunderstood and amplify what makes them unique as a mask.  It is for this reason, the Sacred Enneagram describes the best way to self-care for an Enneagram 4 is to REST in SOLITUDE.  

Enneagram 4 Self Care Rest in Solitude

What does it mean to “rest?” For an Enneagram type 4, it means to quiet the flurry of emotions. And while resting in solitude may trigger a deeper sense of loneliness, it’s here that you can face the fear of abandonment. Jim Baker reminds us that it’s in solitude that we become free from patterns that inhibit us from experiencing God.  For an Enneagram type 4, this will be an opportunity to silence your inner critic, and to peace with who you were created to be outside of the validation of others.  As you REST in SOLITUDE as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 4, we’ve included a few products or gift ideas to encourage this spiritual discipline. These products in no way represent self-care; instead, they are merely prompts to encourage the practice unique to your type.

Self Love Journal

It’s hard to quiet the range of emotions–especially the self-deprecating thoughts that can just be really loud.  For a intentional practice of resting in solitude, grab a journal full of prompts to help you banish the self-doubt and see the beauty instead.

Bath Salt Shots

Add a little romance to the rest and solitude, and stay true to the beauty Enneagram 4’s bring to the world. 

Notes to Self Card Set

Loving who you are is not always easy, but these notes-to-self prompts can help reflect and inspire you on the journey.

Enneagram 4
Seen Candle

Send a message Enneagram 4’s long to hear–that they are Seen and loved for who they are. Remind them of this with each use. This candle, made by our friends at Continued Good, is a perfect and thoughtful handmade gift.

DIY Poetic Embroidery Set

Rest and reflect in solitude and let it birth something lovely. 

How do you REST in SOLITUDE as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 4?  We’d love to hear and share your ideas on what works for you. Tell us in the comments below.   

Author: Bone+Marrow