Self-Care Practices for an Enneagram 5

With plenty of people feeling anxious, discouraged, and isolated nowadays, we thought we’d explore self-care practices for an Enneagram 5.  It’s important for us to see, know, and celebrate each Enneagram type, and sometimes that means taking a time-out for a realignment.  We’ve done our homework, studied, and explored self-care practices for an Enneagram 5, and we are hopeful in sharing it with you today. Let’s get started.

Self Care Quote on Becoming

It is easy to get lulled into believing that self-care is simply “treating yourself,” but the truth is self-care requires your participation (which is why we call it a “practice”). Self-care is more than bubble baths, wine nights, or retail therapy.  While we love all of those things and have even curated some fun products and ideas that lend to those, but we believe that self-care is less about doing and more about BECOMING.  

As we researched self-care practices for each Enneagram type, it turns out that each needs their own version of self-care to discover freedom and find wholeness. 


Enneagram type 5’s are known for withdrawing and observing the world around them.  In fact, they are oftentimes called the investigators as they seek to control their inner mind by collecting information, insight, and understanding. This gives us insight into how Enneagram type 5’s manage the world around them.  Much like the Enneagram 8, Enneagram 5’s reject or deny their own needs in a poor attempt to gain what they don’t feel like they have.  It is for this reason, the Sacred Enneagram describes the best way to self-care for an Enneagram 5 is to CONSENT to SILENCE.  

Self Care for an Enneagram Type 5

What does it mean to “consent?” It’s simply means to actively agree to participate. It’s here, in the silence, that an Enneagram type 5 will find that God can be found in the mystery. Having all the answers will not provide the security the Enneagram 5 desires. To do so in silence, Jim Baker says, is to quiet the mind, or to allow the active mind of an Enneagram 5 to rest.

As you CONSENT to SILENCE as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 5, we’ve included a few products or gift ideas to encourage this spiritual discipline.  These products in no way represent self-care; instead, they are merely prompts to encourage the practice unique to your type.

Keratin Hand Gloves

If your hands are being pampered, it’s hard to be holding a book, watching a Youtube show, or Googling the answer…and that’s the point. See what we did there? 

Self Care Gift Box

Got an Enneagram Type 5 friend who could use some self-care? Speak to the deep places of their heart reminding them how amazing they are, how loved they are, and how precious they are–make it safe for them to be still in silent moments.

Chamomile Tea Gift Set

Self-care practices are all unique, which is why we chose to add this chamomile gift set to the list for the Enneagram 5.  It’s a little bit of learning (perfect for you) that lends itself nicely into a “consenting to silence” practice.

Enneagram 5
Valuable Candle

Send a message Enneagram 5’s long to hear–that they are valuable. Remind them of this with each use. This candle, made by our friends at Continued Good, is a perfect and thoughtful handmade gift.

DIY Soap Making Kit

Pick the flowers in silence. Then, learn how to make dried flowers soap, and finally indulge in a quiet shower or bath as a part of practicing consenting to silence. 

How do you CONSENT to SILENCE as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 5?  We’d love to hear and share your ideas on what works for you. Tell us in the comments below.   

Author: Bone+Marrow