Self-Care Practices for an Enneagram 6

With plenty of people feeling anxious, discouraged, and doubtful nowadays, we thought we’d explore self-care practices for an Enneagram 6.  It’s important for us to see, know, and celebrate each Enneagram type, and sometimes that means taking a time-out for a realignment.  We’ve done our homework, studied, and explored self-care practices for an Enneagram 6, and we are hopeful in sharing it with you today. Let’s get started.

Self Care Quote on Becoming

It is easy to get lulled into believing that self-care is simply “treating yourself,” but the truth is self-care requires your participation (which is why we call it a “practice”). Self-care is more than bubble baths, wine nights, or retail therapy.  While we love all of those things and have even curated some fun products and ideas that lend to those, but we believe that self-care is less about doing and more about BECOMING.  

As we researched self-care practices for each Enneagram type, it turns out that each needs their own version of self-care to discover freedom and find wholeness. 


It’s no secret the Enneagram type 6 values security, and can oftentimes suffer from anxiety–more so than other types in the fear triad. In fact, like the Enneagram type 9, they can attach themselves to what they believe will give them a sense of assurance, but it’s a false sense of security, and actually keeps them disconnected.  This gives us insight into how Enneagram type 6’s manage the world around them. The Sacred Enneagram describes the best way to self-care for an Enneagram 6 is to ENGAGE in SILENCE.  By doing this, Enneagram 6’s find their inner courage emerge. While this might be painful (fear is really loud in silence), it is an opportunity to confront fear, and silence its lying mouth. 

Engage in Silence for an Enneagram 6

What does it mean to “engage?” For an Enneagram type 6, it means to show up, and to actively choose to participate in regardless of feeling like fear might overtake you.  To do so in silence, Jim Baker says, is to quiet the mind. It’s silence that teaches us to listen for the voice of God; a voice they may not recognize when the mind is always looking to perceive potential threats. As you ENGAGE in SILENCE as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 6, we’ve included a few products or gift ideas to encourage this spiritual discipline. These products in no way represent self-care; instead, they are merely prompts to encourage the practice unique to your type.

Scalp Massager

Silence doesn’t have to be painful.  It’s time to make silent moments (like the shower), something you look forward to, and what better way to do it than to turn your shower into a spa with a shampooing scalp massager. 

Encouragement Gift Package

Got an Enneagram Type 6 friend who could use some self-care? Send her a encouraging care package that cheerleads her efforts to engage in silence. 

Unwind Lavendar Gift Set

Lavender is a go-to natural plant that promotes calmness and wellness. It’s also said to help reduce stress ad anxiety, and is the perfect prompt to move into intentional silence. 

Enneagram 6
Secure Candle

Send a message Enneagram 6’s long to hear–that they are secure. Remind them of this with each use. This candle, made by our friends at Continued Good, is a perfect and thoughtful handmade gift.

Wildflower Pressing Kit

Silence, not stillness, is the goal–and in the silence, beauty is possible. Grab a wildflower pressing kit, and make it a practice to look for beauty in the quiet moments. 

How do you ENGAGE in SILENCE as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 6?  We’d love to hear and share your ideas on what works for you. Tell us in the comments below.   

Author: Bone+Marrow