Self-Care Practices for an Enneagram 9

With plenty of people feeling anxious, discouraged, and overwhelmed nowadays, we thought we’d explore self-care practices for an Enneagram 9.  It’s important for us to see, know, and celebrate each Enneagram type, and sometimes that means taking a time-out for a realignment.  We’ve done our homework, studied, and explored self-care practices for an Enneagram 9, and we are hopeful in sharing it with you today. Let’s get started.

Self Care Quote on Becoming

It is easy to get lulled into believing that self-care is simply “treating yourself,” but the truth is self-care requires your participation (which is why we call it a “practice”). Self-care is more than bubble baths, wine nights, mani-pedi’s and retail therapy.  While we love all of those things and have even curated some fun products and ideas that lend to those, we believe that self-care is less about doing and more about BECOMING.  

As we researched self-care practices for each Enneagram type, it turns out that each needs their own version of self-care to discover freedom and find wholeness. 


It’s no secret the Enneagram type 9 desires harmony.  In fact, they are oftentimes called the peacemaker as they long for both peace and harmony, which gives us insight into how they manage the world around them.  For an Enneagram type 9, seeking and pursuing harmony is actually a way of fortifying the illusions their ego constructs–or better said: it’s harmony that makes you feel okay, but actually just bandaids the disconnection.  Instead, the Sacred Enneagram describes the best way to self-care for an Enneagram 9 is to ENGAGE in STILLNESS.  


Self Care Practices for an Enneagram 9

What is “Engagement” exactly? It’s simply means showing up, intentionally being aware of your needs by resisting the tendency toward resignation. To do so in stillness, Jim Baker says, is to quiet the need to initiate action (harmony) in our own strength or timing.  It’s stillness that teaches us restraint in order to discern what appropriate engagement looks like. 

As you ENGAGE in STILLNESS as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 9, we’ve included a few products or gift ideas to encourage this spiritual discipline.  These products in no way represent self-care; instead, they are merely prompts to encourage the practice unique to your type.

Botanical Facial Steam

For the days you can’t get outside, bring all the freshness of florals and herbs to you with this facial steam that’s soothing, rejuvenating, hydrating, and a great segue for moving into intentional stillness.   

Mindfulness Card Set

Engage your body with this colorful box of 50 prompts and exercises divided into four sections: rest and balance, curiosity and joy, insight and awareness, and kindness. Be intentional about connecting with yourself with this mindfulness card deck.

Facial Steamer

Pause and clear your mind while doing it for your body–you are in the body triad after all. Grab a facial steamer to pair with the practice of engaging in stillness. 

Enneagram 9 Candle

Send a message Enneagram 9’s long to hear–that they are needed. Remind them of this with each use as they Engage in Stillness. This candle, made by our friends at Continued Good, is a perfect and thoughtful handmade gift.

Tune Out
Musical Sleep Mask

Engage in Stillness no matter where you are with this cordless mask that blocks light and connects to your favorite jams giving you the opportunity to unplug anywhere. 

How do you ENGAGE in STILLNESS as a self-care practice for an Enneagram 9?  We’d love to hear and share your ideas on what works for you. Tell us in the comments below.   

Author: Bone+Marrow